Should you do a first look on your wedding day? This decision can have a big impact on the timeline of your wedding day but it doesn’t mean one is better than the other. It all depends on what is more of a priority to you! In this blog I am going to unpack the pros and cons of doing a first look and the pros and cons of not seeing each other until you come walking down the aisle.
First Look
So, what exactly is a first look anyway? The first look is where the bride and groom see each other before the ceremony. There are many reasons couples may choose to go this route but I promise it doesn’t make the moment of the bride coming down the aisle any less special. Let’s talk about some pros of the first look:
Pro #1: It allows more time for photos
Most first looks are done earlier in the day and allow more time for you to do photos as a couple, photos with your bridal party and photos with your family members. This also means that most of your photos can be done BEFORE the ceremony even happens. This can also allow you to be less stressed when the ceremony comes around because you’ve already accomplished so much and now it’s just time to get married and enjoy the day!
Pro #2: It allows you to visit people during cocktail hour
Some couples really like the ability to go to cocktail hour and chat with their guests. I’ll be honest, it is unlikely you’ll have much time to chat during your reception because the music is loud, people are eating, and you’ll probably want to enjoy the party!
Going to cocktail hour allows for a low key catch up time with all of the people you have invited to your big day! It also means you can slow down and be more present. I am always a fan of creating space on your wedding day to enjoy time with people.
Pro #3: It gives you more time with your new spouse
One of the biggest regrets I hear from couples on their wedding day is that they didn’t spend more time with their spouse! I know that seems strange, but most of the day is actually spent apart. You spend the night before and the morning of separately. You get ready separately. You often dance with your friends during the reception. And even the times when you are together you are usually surrounded by a bunch of people.
If you want to spend more time together this may be the best choice for you!
Pro #4: It can help your day feel less stressful
Doing a first look gives you lots of flexibility. If something doesn’t go to plan it’s easy to move some things around because you aren’t trying to stuff a bunch of photos into a 1-hour time slot. It also means you can slow down and not feel rushed.
If it gives you anxiety just thinking about the timeline then a first look may give you the space and breathing room you need on your wedding day.
Pro #5: Can allow you to take photos off-site
If you would like your photos done somewhere other than your wedding venue than first look is definitely the way to go. If you’re in the DC area you may want photos at one of the memorials or if you’re getting married at a venue that doesn’t have a green landscape like you want then a first look gives you time to do photos earlier at a different location!
Cons of a first look:
- It’s less traditional (that’s the only con I can think of!)
Traditional Look
Some couples opt for a more traditional first look when the bride comes walking down the aisle. I get it. I did that myself when I got married. If you really want THAT MOMENT when he sees you for the first time walking down the aisle with soft music then here are a few things to consider.
Pro #1: You have the magical first moment during the ceremony
This is probably my only pro, but hear me when I say it is a BIG PRO. If you really want this moment don’t feel pressure to go with a first look just because it may be easier. Choose what is right for you!
Cons:
- Gives you less time for photos
- Doesn’t allow you to go to cocktail hour
- It gives you less time with your spouse on your wedding day
- It usually makes your day feel more rushed
- Doesn’t allow for off-site photos
Ultimately, it’s your decision
Whichever one you want is what you should do. Don’t let family, friends or vendors push you into something you don’t want. As a wedding photographer I will NEVER make you choose one over the other. I will work with you to create a timeline that will serve you best no matter which type of first look you want to do. So, stick with your GUT and do what feels right.
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